If you don't do it with soul, why are you doing it at all?
Monday, 15 February 2016
Turn it around!!
It is expected to make mistakes, but not acceptable to stay there! Get up, dust yourself off, put on your big girl/boy pants and see the bigger picture. the bigger the mistake, the bigger the opportunity!!
Believe and Be Brave......!!
Do You Really Want To Be Successful?
Bohemian B’s Beat
Do You Really Want To Be Successful?
“Alas by some degree of woe, we every bliss must gain, the heart can
ne’er a transport know, that never feels a pain”
I always ask myself at the end of the
day, did I help anyone today? Did I
contribute anything of consequence or did I give in because it was hard… did I
surrender to the pain of discipline?
Always bear in mind that discipline is the key to riches and the more
painful the discipline you can endure, the greater the riches you can enjoy. So go
through this week with courage and don’t let the harsh requirements and demands
stop you, exercise discipline… don’t be afraid to be hard on yourself….
Even if you have to bite your lip and
carry a heavy load for a while, persists.
When disappointments come, see them as blessings; and when obstacles
arise, see them as instructions….and when criticisms come use them as inspiration
to forge ahead. The discomfort you
encounter as you persevere on your journey cannot compare to the glorious
results that you will enjoy.
Knowing the path you should take is not
enough. You have to walk the path. This
takes discipline. To know and not to do is not to know at all. Discipline is the hallmark of a truly happy
life.
Glitter greetings (and all things shiny)
Bohemian B
Sunday, 30 August 2015
Turn your frown upside down.
Historian BH Liddell Hart wrote: “A life spent
in sowing a few grains of fruitful thought, is a life spent more effectively
than in hasty action that produces a crop of weeds.”
We humans, being the mere mortals that we are,
cannot help but to… well… be human. And
being human we feel, we laugh, cry, fall, eat, sleep, and experience emotions
such as joy, love, fear and anger. Too
often though, we forget that we are human and react as animals, normally when
the emotion of anger or fear takes hold.
Now this is going to sound crazy, but even our animalistic antics are
normal. Did you know…being human makes
you magnificently marvellous and we have the ability to change our minds!
Amazing phenomena, I know. So perhaps
now when we experience these intense and dramatic emotions, you could turn them
around to be beneficial opposed to detrimental.
So, if you must succumb to feelings and even actions of ambush, terror,
persecution, manhandling, assult, besiege, bashing, exploding horror or
outrage, try turning them into a possitive aposed to the negative it’s supposed
to sygnify. Ambush the couch. Terrorize the cupcake. Persecute the remote. Manhandle the paperback. Attack the keyboard. Assault the outdoors. Besiege
your friends. Explode with dancing. Be outrageously positive. And horrifically content. Storm the streets. Stare rudely at art. Bash out the dukebox. It is true that we are what we repeatedly do.
It all begins in your mind what you give power to, has power over you, if you
allow it.
You will be amazed at the magic that occurs
once you have mastered the art of turning your frown up-side down. Here are a few things that you can be certain
of happening. Firstly you become a much
prettier person, both inside and out.
Secondly, instead of causing King-Kong kind of terror for those around
you, you rather portray a Mary Poppins persona, portraying happy motivational
thoughts and encouraging inspiration.
Lastly (only last for me to mention, not last on the ongoing list
however) your magic will carry healing properties. The following story perfectly describes the
magical healing properties tucked away in motivational encouragement.
Two
men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed
to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from
his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat
on his back. The men talked for hours on
end. They spoke of their wives and
families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service,
where they had been on vacation. Every
afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass
the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the
window. The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where
his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the
world outside. The window overlooked a
park with a lovely lake.Ducks and swans played on the water while children
sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of
every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.
As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on
the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque
scene. One warm afternoon, the man by
the window described a parade passing by.
Although the other man could not see the band, he could see it in his
mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.
Days, weeks and months passed.One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water
for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who
had died peacefully in his sleep. She
was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away. As soon
as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the
window.The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was
comfortable, she left him alone. Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on
one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to
slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed. It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have
compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside
this window. The nurse responded that
the man was blind and could not even see the wall. She said, “Perhaps he just wanted to
encourage you.”
Remember that inspiration flows where you’re thoughts go. A quoted text in a Novel ‘Her Will’, by,
Floranova BMsc describes this perfectly.
It reads, “In the midst of her torment, she felt a sense of hope and
trying to understand the gravity of the situation, she thought, the
circumstances do not own me. I am in the
moment and I am capable to decide, either to leave or to stay.”
Sometimes you need to talk to a three year old
just so you can understand life again, to simplify all the above messages I have
tried to elaborately colour-in for you.
Bohemian B
Embrace the suck
Insecurities, self confidence and self
image are what haunt many women today.
Too thin, too fat, too tall, too short, too pretty, and not pretty
enough and the list of self critisism goes on endlessly. According to this bohemian, this syndrom
should be labled as emotional, self mutilation.
There are a considerable amount of
contributing factors that could result in many woman (sadly too many) becoming
emotional self-mutilation suffers. The
most common contributor would be society, advocating the picture perfect image of what todays ( seemingly ) ‘perfect woman’ represent, how she should look, what she
should wear, what the acceptable and preferd weight should be, her make-up,
vocabluary, career choice, all the way down to what she should eat, how often
she should eat, how many children she should have, even what toothbrush she
should use to assist her in fulfillinbg this perfect role portrayed by todays ‘societies standards.
Another is the mirror......in its
reflection; we see only our version of the truth. Cringing at each and every yukky bit (each
ones own perceptiopn of yukky, obviously).
After observing the monster in the mirror, we proceed to manipulate the
vision before us, performing the suggested camoflage regime making us
ucceptable to society. In truth we are
not seeing our own reflection, what we are looking at through our own criticle
eyes are our very own feelings of inadequacy.
How marvelous wouldn’t it be if we could face truth and embrace who we
are rather than constantly compare ourselves to society’s model image of who
we, as woman are supposed to be? Wouldnt
it be wonderful if would stop believing that our differences make us superior
or inferior to one another? Can you
imagine how incredibly harmonious the world would be if we (woman spesifically)
accepted, embraced and even loved ourselves just they way God made us to
be. We wouldnt spend hours antagonising
over our ‘flaws’ but rather understand that each and every thing us difines who
we are. We would save astronamicle
amounts of money if we would get the stupid idea of competing with others,
trying to be prettier, blonder, thinner, richer, .....
If we could just learn to BE and BE
happy about BEING our entire world would change considerably.
The reflection in the mirror would tell
a different story.....a story of truths, of self confidence and radiant beauty
from within. We would see who we really
are and learn to love ourselves in our
own perfection, the contour of your face, the shape of your body, the tone of
your skin, the colour of your eyes..........this would all count as the perfect
wrapping for the beautiful woman inside.
Your self confidence, your belief in yourself and your security in the
acceptance of who you are makes any ‘exterior wrapping’ beautiful. Even if youb dont believe in some things,
alwasy believe in you.
In my opinion, it is not up to the mirror to affirm my appearance or
society to pre-describe who I should be.
It is entirely up to me to choose between declaring war or embracing the
suck I’ve decided is there, staring back at me.
It is up to me to choose between self confidence and insecurity. Insecurity
will end up leading me along the path of
an ever hate for mirror’s and following the ‘guidance’ of society, where as by choosing self confidence, I create my own path by
believing in the power and beauty which comes from within myself. It is therefore that I decided to embrac e
the suck, the yukky’s i see in the mirror.
In doing so I have discovered a treasure in the words of a friend who
reminded me that what I see as Yukky, somebody else sees as yummy!
I recieved a beautiful message earlier
on this week that I have to share with you in the hopes that it will help you
see the beauty in your very own suck.
The message read, “You devour the smell of a rose, you are in awe for
the stars, and yet you ignore the grace of your own being? How is it that you see yourself? What
is it that you tell yourself? You call
yourself stupid? You call yourself
dumb? You call yourself fat? You call skinny?
Would you call the rose stupid? Would you call the stars dumb? Aren't you made of the same molecules?
If for one moment you could grasp your
own divinity,if for one moment you could get in touch with your infinity, if
for one moment you could feel the miracle of your own being, if you would
understand the grace of your own being , you would look upon yourself as a
miracle and you would be stunned by your
own beauty.”
Tomorrow as you look in the mirror while applying your war paint for the
day, take a moment to look at yourself, and i mean look, not scrutinise.
Instead of cringing and critisizing, be bold and surprise yourself by embrasing
your suck. Take a moment of inssanity and tell the mirror, “thank you, but your
opinion is no longer necessary.” Take a
moment and be in awe for yourself. Feel
the grace of your own being.
WOW look at you now! Beautifully yummy and
wearing your self named yukky with confidence.
Lady, you are beautiful!!
Glitter greetings (and all things shiny)
Bohemian B
Raw deal.......
Give me give me give me!....pick me!
Pick me!... Im’m steak!.... The human race is seemingly regressing at a
phanominal speed do to our evolving. All
consumed with theme, me and me regime, ever demanding and fueled by my
right? What rights? To me they are
slowly becoming more and more seemingly wrong.
Selfish and lazy and completely self absorbed are we. We are so busy fighting for our rights that
we forget our own value and nine out of ten times sell ourselves short.
A lazy generation is what we have become. We want it all, the glitz, the glam and the
glory, but just hand it to me on a silver platter please, so I don’t have to
strain myself at all. And as I am handed
all the comfort and luxuary I could ever imagine, I will cobtinue to sit here
on my pedasil and expand where I shouldnt and complain about the little I don’t
have. What saddens me most from this
scenario is (in my opinion) the obliviation we find we fit so comfortably
into. You may see yourself as the top of
the food chain, but I am affraid to say you are not.....you are playing the
perfect roll of victim and laying down in your very own puddle of seeped out
self worth.
Tension breaker questionair: 1) did you see the mother and her young
child braving the icy cold this morning as you drove past in your hot
airconditioned vehicle? Did you see the
youngster was crying his little heart out? Did you see the sad and hopeless
expression on the mother’s tired and drawn face? Did you notice that they wore the same colour
skin as you? Orwere you, like most of
the rest of us self righteous humans in the world, so self absorbed in our own
troubles (and yes, we all have them) that you never even caught a glimps of
them?
Feeling offended yet? Good.
If not, just hold on I’ll get to you in a bit. The order of business goes as follows (in my
opinion of course) If you didnt work for it, It’s not yours. If you didnt run the race, you shouldnt be
wearing those trainers. If you didnt
plant it, you shouldnt pick it. Have we
such a low self image and lack recognising our own value to such an extent that
you deem it acceptable to take something you did not work for and lable it you
own. I can take this a little
further. If you are too upity to get
your hands dirty (so to speak) then Im pretty certain you are too upity to
offer your opinion as well. If you have
masterd only the art of taking, critisizing and judging then I am sad to say,
you have lost your worth.......everything we do from the moment we wake up
until the moment we drift off to lala land again, we are busy making public
display of our self worth, our value. Instead of always wanting and continually
taking, how about every once in a while start giving. A lift to school/work, a loaf of bread, a
warm smile or maybe just five minutes of your precious time to show a loney,
lost or even just sad soul that they are not alone in the world.
Motivational writer, Bryant McGill wrote a brilliant piece on
self-worth, “Value is your way out of the trap!” explaining the value of your
raw material. ‘The value of your worth’. He says, “You better have some skills in this
world. You better bring something to the dinner party or you will be the
dinner. You will either have value, or
be grist for the mill — nothing more. I know it seems so unfair. I didn't make
the rules. The truth is that the world
doesn't have much use or respect for “does nothing” people. Can you really blame them? Take some pride in
yourself. Get to work. Read everything you can get your hands on. Acquire several skills and find at least one
that you can master, and that earns you respect. Let your skills do the talking. Get determined. This world is bursting with opportunity. Maybe
it's time you re-invent you and try again. Get going. Don't cheat the world or yourself of what you
have to offer. You must cultivate value within yourself if you want to move
forward. If you feel trapped quit
thinking about the trap and start thinking about your value. Life favours value. Value is your way out. The quality of your life hinges on your
attitudes and offerings. Become a gift in the lives of others and you will
always be well received. If you want
more opportunities you have to become an opportunity for others. As you advance yourself your opportunities
advance too. It's so simple. Get to work on yourself. The harder you work
on yourself the more the external things you couldn't or can’t change will
change on their own. Cultivating your value proposition in life is the way to
move forward. You are the raw material
of your own destiny.”
Go out and embrace your rawness. Be the person who makes a difference in
somebody’s life. Show the world your
value.
Glitter greetings (and all things shiny)
Bohemian B
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