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Quotes to help you Accept Endings & Embrace New Beginnings

Have you ever feel like every area of your life is changing so fast and you're just standing in the middle of it all, confused and directionless?Maybe that’s how you feel at this very moment in your life.  First off, rest assured, you are not alone.

Yup, I've been there, but through applying the quotes and tips below, I've been able to feel less anxiety and more peace about the uncertainty that comes along with those inevitable life changes.

Earl Purdy said, “Rejection is protection and redirection.” I find it a comfort knowing that there’s always more than one way of looking at any situation. When we're rejected, we have a tendency to go straight for a fearful idea, such as, “I’m not good enough.” But we can just as easily choose the opposite. We can choose to see the rejection as a positive thing. Perhaps the person doing the rejection is not good enough and by his/her rejection you are being protected from a life of unwanted outcomes. Something important to remember is that, “Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don't have to like it, but it's just easier if you do.”  This is a major perceptual shift from playing the victim card to owning your personal power. When we start to use our power instead of giving it away, we’re capable of miracles. Miracles are shifts in perception from fear to love.C. S. Lewis stated that, “Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.”  Whenever I know (deep in my heart) that some forgiveness work needs to take place, I start with willingness. Willingness to forgive someone or some situation is all it takes to create healing. Start with a simple mantra every morning and night such as, “I am willing to forgive.” You can even take it back a step and start with, “I am willing to be willing to forgive.”

 “It’s not about 'what can I accomplish?' but‘what do I want to accomplish?' Paradigm shift.” When everything seemingly falls apart, it’s more important than ever to get clear on the direction you want to go and as you move forward, focusing rather on how you want to feel and then starting to do the things that create those desired feelings and results. This is about you. What do you want to accomplish?

 “The object isn’t to make art; it’s to be in that wonderful state which makes art inevitable,” said Robert Henri.

Any time I’ve moved homes, started new jobs, ended relationships, joined new activities, or traveled those feelings of anxiety and doubt seemed to crop up. There’s nothing positive about hiding your feelings. Instead, it’s very important to feel your feelings in a constructive way. For me that’s writing about the experience and/or creating new works of (my self-proclaimed) art or choreographing a new dance.  The point is to feel your feelings and express yourself as you forgive, set new directions and move forward.  As Wayne Dyer so beautifully put it, “When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It's to enjoy each step along the way.”  Anytime I feel uncertain about life or want to try something new, my ‘go-to’ reaction is to immediately try and control of everything in an attempt to create some sense of order in my life. I want to see the whole path and know for certain that each decision is ‘right’ before I take action. With this mentality, I spent years thinking about doing things, but never actually taking the necessary steps to create the life I dreamed of. Instead, just try taking one step and trust that when you need it, the next step will be revealed. In truth, there's no certainty.  Heart throb Antonio Banderas said, “Expectation is the mother of all frustration.”  When we have tons of expectations for what SHOULD happen and how people SHOULD act, we set ourselves up for judgment and disappointment. Speaking of judgment, Kripalu said, “The highest spiritual practice is self-observation without judgment.” We tend to be our own worst critic. As you’re making life changes, it’s more important than ever to be gentle with yourself and not head into fear-land by thinking about all the things you should have and could have done. You’re exactly where you need to be, remember?And lastly “Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself.” We often let our actions be directed by the opinions of others.Seeking approval from others results in our, losing touch of our own likes, dislikes and desires. We all have our own internal guidance showing us the way through the confusion. Those buried passions and the strong desire to create something are coming from non-other than the inner YOU.  S Pressfield said, “The more afraid we are of a job or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it.”  Risk it, because, not doing it is often riskier. The “it” in this case might be quitting the job, speaking your mind, finally walking away from an unhealthy relationship, saying no, or proceeding with a new business plan. One thing I know for sure is that we learn about ourselves through new experiences. So whatever the ending and new beginning is for you right now, allow yourself to be swept away by the sweet freedom that comes with it. Growth is around the corner.

Glitter greetings (and all things shiny)

Bohemian B