Enduring endings and embracing exciting beginnings

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Enduring endings and embracing exciting beginnings

“Start at the beginning and when you get to the end… stop” – Alice in Wonderland.

Yup, I've been there, but through applying the tips below, I've been able to feel less anxiety and more at peace about the uncertainty that comes along with those inevitable life changes.

   A quote by Earl Purdy made me stop and think and inevitably, view the ominous word “Rejection” in a whole new light. He said, “Rejection is protection and redirection.”  I find comfort in knowing that there is always more than one way of looking at any situation.  When we are rejected, we have a tendency to go straight for a fearful idea, such as, “I’m not good enough.”  But we can just as easily choose the opposite.  We can choose to see the rejection as a positive thing.

  “Life is simple.  Everything happens for you and not to you.  Start adapting the belief that everything happens at exactly the right moment; it is neither too soon nor too late.  (Even if it doesn't feel like that right now!)  You don't have to like it... it’s just easier if you do” – Byron Katie.  This is a major perceptual shift from playing the victim card to owning your personal power.  When we start to use our power instead of giving it away, we start creating our own miracles in our own life.  Miracles are shifts in perception from fear to love.  “Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars.  You have to let go at some point in order to move forward”, says writer CS Lewis.  Whenever I know, deep in my heart, that I need to do some forgiveness work, I start with willingness.  Willingness to forgive someone or some situation is all it takes to create healing.  Brene Brown said, “It’s not about what CAN I accomplish?  But rather, what do I WANT to accomplish?  Paradigm shift.”  When everything seemingly falls apart, it’s more important than ever to get clear on the direction you want to go in as you move forward.  Focus on how you want to feel in every area of life and then start doing activities that create those desired feelings.  This is about YOU and what YOU want to accomplish.  Writer Robert Henri once wrote, “The object isn't to make art; it’s to be in that wonderful state which makes art inevitable.”  Any time I’ve moved homes, started a new job or faced the ending of a relationship, the inevitable feelings of anxiety and doubt always managed to pop up.  There’s nothing “spiritual” or “positive” about hiding your feelings.  Instead, it’s very important to feel your feelings in a constructive way.  Feel your feelings and express yourself as you forgive, set new directions and move forward. 

   My personal favourite quote and the one I often enjoy reflecting on is, “When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor.  It's to enjoy each step along the way”- Wayne Dyer.  Anytime I feel uncertain about life or want to try something new, my go-to reaction is to immediately try and control everything in an attempt to create some sense of order in my life.  I want to see the whole path and know for certain that each decision is the “right” one before I take action.  With this mentality, I spent years thinking about doing things, but never actually took the necessary steps to create the life I dreamed of.  Instead I continually tried taking one step and trust that when you need it, the next step will be revealed.  In truth, there's no certainty and this is why you need to believe in your own abilities to get where you should be by enjoying every step along the way.  As Steven Pressfield said, “The more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it.”  Risk it, because in my opinion, not doing it is often riskier.  The “it” in this case might be quitting a job, speaking your mind, finally walking away from an unhealthy relationship, starting a food blog, saying no, or going all in on your new business plan.  One thing I know for sure is that we learn about ourselves through new experiences.  So whatever the ending and new beginning is for you right now, allow yourself to be swept away by the sweet freedom that comes with it.  Growth is around the corner.

Glitter greetings (and all things shiny)

Bohemian B