“Aint nobody got time for that…..”

“Aint nobody got time for that…..”

Each one of us goes through life by ever constantly following our mundane and routine ‘survive-life’ guide. Day in and day out, hour by hour and minute by minute we pass our time by either working ourselves to a complete halt or occupying ourselves with what we feel is important to the here and now of our own little bubble of a universe, often forgetting that with each passing moment we are growing older as our youthful glow gradually fades away over time.   It was as I was thinking along these lines that I Realized (in horror) that old (er) age is coming at a really bad time for me.  I say this as I feel as if I should only be starting my life as a young adult now (With all the knowledge I have managed to acquire during my life’s school of hard knocks attendance, obviously).  

    I have quite an extensive ‘bucket-list’ of things to accomplish before I end up pushing up daisies.  Therefore I have decided that the only way to live out the rest of my busy and adventurous life, having enough time to accomplish everything on ‘the list’ along with the required energetic vitality needed is to retire now.  I'm going to retire and live off of my savings and not waste one more single moment.  I am not sure what I'll do the second week though! Kidding! I have decided to rather follow the advice from writer, ― Kristin Armstrong, who wrote, “Do the things you used to talk about doing but never did. Know when to let go and when to hold on tight. Stop rushing. Don't be intimidated to say it like it is.  Stop apologizing all the time.  Learn to say no, so your yes has some oomph.  Spend time with the friends who lift you up, and cut loose the ones who bring you down.  Stop giving your power away.  Be more concerned with being interested than being interesting.  Be old enough to appreciate your freedom, and young enough to enjoy it.  Finally know who you are.” 

I think we can all agree, that regardless of which religion we choose to believe, there are many universal lessons that are important for us to learn and understand ( which should have happened  at a young age.) Lessons like:  - We are all connected, and harming others is not optional. - There is value in developing intuition and practicing "feeling from the heart."  - And that you should always be growing and learning.    As Dr. Charles,CoachMD says, Make the right choices, for the right reasons, and the right things will happen.  It's easy to have dreams and desires, but often the reasons behind them are not grounded in integrity, humility, or spirit.  For instance, we may dream to have a big house, or a big car, or a lot of money. That may be okay to keep desiring and dreaming these things and they may be exactly what is right for us.  However, what is the reason we desire these things?  So we can look bigger, better, stronger, more powerful than someone else?  Maybe someone who once beat us up?  Think about it. 

   We all know that growing old is mandatory but growing up is optional. Maybe we should make it a priority to grow up gracefully, deliberately, with a touch of class and a whole lot of maturity!

Glitter greetings (and all things shiny)

Bohemian B  

Shine on Supernova!!

No Detox - No Happy!!

10 Toxic Thoughts That Are Quietly Destroying Your Happiness

1. Not accepting the truth.

This is the first step to putting your life back on track.  Accepting the truth is important because it enables you to look at and think critically about the issues that impact you the most.

2. Feeling entitled.

Entitlement is out of control these days.  It really is becoming a case of giving a mouse a cookie and him expecting a glass of milk. If you’ve been given something, that’s wonderful! Don’t take advantage and certainly don’t rely on them forever.  Maybe pay it forward.

3. I’m not lucky.

Luck is such a funny concept. It’s one of the most bought into fictitious phenomena out there.  There is no such thing as luck as some kind of pervasive force that determines what happened to you.  You’ll experience strokes of good luck and strokes of bad.  In either case, get back on the horse.

4. What do other people think?

Who cares what other people think?  Consider for a moment what you think of yourself.  Yours is the most important opinion.

5. I’m just waiting for the right time.

Now is the right time. Go for it!

6. I wish I had…

It’s important to dream about the kind of life you want, but be careful that you’re not becoming too materialistic. Take some time to take stock of the things you do have, how awesome that is, and how you might be able to benefit your community instead of focusing on your own material desires.

7. This isn’t my fault.

Sometimes things aren’t your fault, but we shirk responsibility for things thinking we’ll end up in the right. If you messed something up, accept the blame and move on.  It’s not a big deal. I’m sure people will still like you.

8. My life sucks.

Yeah maybe a little bit right now, but if you’re reading this, you probably live in a developed country.  That by itself is awesome.  We have things now that our grandparents never dreamed of.  Things truly are alright.  One of the best things about life today is that if we need help, we can get it from one another.

9. I’m not good enough.

This stems from being concerned with what other people think. “I’m not good enough.” The only person you need to be good enough for is yourself, and if you’re fine with the way things are going, moreover if you’re still alive, you must be good enough.

10. But what if I fail?

So what if you fail?  Failing is fine. The fear of failure is not.  If you fail at something, get back on the horse and try harder. Try it a new way. Think outside the box. But don’t give up.

Fairy Spirit

Resigning from the ‘Love Sucks Club’

Your belated Valentines day greeting/gift

So here we are again, another ‘big’ day which is highly anticipated by most and sore dreaded by others.  Yes, you guessed it, Valentine’s Day.  Just to set matters straight, I am a typical woman in my own right, who loves receiving flowers, chocolates or a specially thought out gift, on Valentine’s Day, but more so on any other day of the year as well.  My argument, for many years now, is why do we pull out all the stops on V-day to ‘prove’ our love?  Wouldn’t it be better to rather SHOW our love daily by being appreciative, respectful, considerate, loyal and caring?  These but a few ways of demonstrating our affection (however, being woman we will never turn our nose up at the occasional bunch of flowers, chocolates, specially thought out gifts etc)

   During the week I heard an interesting advert over the radio advertising an even to be held on Valentine’s day, called the ‘Love sucks club’ I gave a little chuckle, highly amused at the name for this particular V-day event.  Let’s face the facts here, there are a lot of single individuals, not to mention un-appreciated attached individuals, and my guess would be that many of them fall into the category of dread as the countdown to ‘the day of love’ begins.  However, after entertaining this thought for a while, I snapped out of my, ‘yes love does suck – when you don’t have it’ - trance when I heard my  own words echoing from dark and tucked away corners of my mind.  “Love cannot suck if you love yourself”.  I gulped down the bitter taste of shame and reminded myself of exactly which journey it was that I was on a while ago where I learnt this truth first hand.   I know better than to indulge in contradictory thoughts.  You see I know my truth.  I know my worth, I know who I am and I embrace that.   I love me and more than that, I even like me.  ok, sometimes not so much and then I have to remind myself again that I am colourfully unique and I have self worth, self respect and dignity,  but even that part of me, the part that can easily slide down doubt mountain, I have also embraced because (thankfully)  I am only human.

   So, to all the singles out there, happy (belated) Valentine’s Day!  Why don’t you go out and buy yourself something special as a token of your acknowledgment to your own self love – bearing in mind that you are allowed to celebrate your own awesomeness ANY day of the year.  If you don’t already, this could just be your big start to your very own journey of self discovery.  After all, if you don’t love and respect yourself, how is your partner (or future partner) supposed to?  If you don’t recognise your own self worth, how can anyone else?

I will leave you to fathom out the answers to those questions by yourself, or you can just turn the tide, open yourself critical eyes and take a look at the amazing person that you really are.  Start falling in love with you.  Now off you go to spoil yourself a bit this post-V-day, just a little token of appreciation ......for YOU, from YOU.

Glitter greetings (and all things shiny)

Bohemian B

Word for the week

If you don't do it with soul, why are you doing it at all? 

Turn it around!!

It is expected to make mistakes, but not acceptable to stay there!  Get up, dust yourself off, put on your big girl/boy pants and see the bigger picture.  the bigger the mistake, the bigger the opportunity!!

Believe and Be Brave......!!

Bohemian B discovered that......Sometimes all we need is to believe enough in ourselves and to be brave enough to take a leap of faith.....!!

Do You Really Want To Be Successful?

Bohemian B’s Beat

Do You Really Want To Be Successful?

   “Alas by some degree of woe, we every bliss must gain, the heart can ne’er a transport know, that never feels a pain”

I always ask myself at the end of the day, did I help anyone today?  Did I contribute anything of consequence or did I give in because it was hard… did I surrender to the pain of discipline?

   Always bear in mind that discipline is the key to riches and the more painful the discipline you can endure, the greater the riches you can enjoy.   So go through this week with courage and don’t let the harsh requirements and demands stop you, exercise discipline… don’t be afraid to be hard on yourself….

Even if you have to bite your lip and carry a heavy load for a while, persists.  When disappointments come, see them as blessings; and when obstacles arise, see them as instructions….and when criticisms come use them as inspiration to forge ahead.   The discomfort you encounter as you persevere on your journey cannot compare to the glorious results that you will enjoy.

Knowing the path you should take is not enough.  You have to walk the path. This takes discipline. To know and not to do is not to know at all.  Discipline is the hallmark of a truly happy life.

Glitter greetings (and all things shiny)

Bohemian B