Resigning from the ‘Love Sucks Club’

Your belated Valentines day greeting/gift

So here we are again, another ‘big’ day which is highly anticipated by most and sore dreaded by others.  Yes, you guessed it, Valentine’s Day.  Just to set matters straight, I am a typical woman in my own right, who loves receiving flowers, chocolates or a specially thought out gift, on Valentine’s Day, but more so on any other day of the year as well.  My argument, for many years now, is why do we pull out all the stops on V-day to ‘prove’ our love?  Wouldn’t it be better to rather SHOW our love daily by being appreciative, respectful, considerate, loyal and caring?  These but a few ways of demonstrating our affection (however, being woman we will never turn our nose up at the occasional bunch of flowers, chocolates, specially thought out gifts etc)

   During the week I heard an interesting advert over the radio advertising an even to be held on Valentine’s day, called the ‘Love sucks club’ I gave a little chuckle, highly amused at the name for this particular V-day event.  Let’s face the facts here, there are a lot of single individuals, not to mention un-appreciated attached individuals, and my guess would be that many of them fall into the category of dread as the countdown to ‘the day of love’ begins.  However, after entertaining this thought for a while, I snapped out of my, ‘yes love does suck – when you don’t have it’ - trance when I heard my  own words echoing from dark and tucked away corners of my mind.  “Love cannot suck if you love yourself”.  I gulped down the bitter taste of shame and reminded myself of exactly which journey it was that I was on a while ago where I learnt this truth first hand.   I know better than to indulge in contradictory thoughts.  You see I know my truth.  I know my worth, I know who I am and I embrace that.   I love me and more than that, I even like me.  ok, sometimes not so much and then I have to remind myself again that I am colourfully unique and I have self worth, self respect and dignity,  but even that part of me, the part that can easily slide down doubt mountain, I have also embraced because (thankfully)  I am only human.

   So, to all the singles out there, happy (belated) Valentine’s Day!  Why don’t you go out and buy yourself something special as a token of your acknowledgment to your own self love – bearing in mind that you are allowed to celebrate your own awesomeness ANY day of the year.  If you don’t already, this could just be your big start to your very own journey of self discovery.  After all, if you don’t love and respect yourself, how is your partner (or future partner) supposed to?  If you don’t recognise your own self worth, how can anyone else?

I will leave you to fathom out the answers to those questions by yourself, or you can just turn the tide, open yourself critical eyes and take a look at the amazing person that you really are.  Start falling in love with you.  Now off you go to spoil yourself a bit this post-V-day, just a little token of appreciation ......for YOU, from YOU.

Glitter greetings (and all things shiny)

Bohemian B