Bohemian B’s Beat
Don’t hesitate – Fumigate!(Part 1)
Today’s column is a tribute to all the
parents, step-parents, teachers and role models who play
an active and positively influential role in our lives and the lives of our
children.
I have been very fortunate to have
received the upbringing I had and the exemplary example from my parents,
grandparents, step-father and mentors to follow. I was taught (what one would think is) basic
principles such as morals, integrity and dignity. I am a firm believer in humanity. In helping others where I can, in offering a
compliment or a kind word and for giving the benefit of the doubt. But because I am like that, I’ve always naturally
assumed everyone else is, but trust me, I have learnt the hard way that there
are so very different characters around.
Over the course of my life and up and till today I have missed some
opportunities and messed up others. I have my share of regrets and sad edges
around a relationship or two. I’ve disappointed my family, friends and even
more often myself. I have complained, whined, and been noisy, and then other
times been silent when I should have spoken up. But tonight I will go to sleep
with a smile knowing that tomorrow is right around the corner and another
chance to get it right will be waiting for me.
It all comes down to a few basic principles in life really, taking
responsibility for one. Take
responsibility for your own actions and your own life and stop pointing fingers
and practicing your self-righteous judgment on others. I do hate to surprise you but nobody died and
put you in charge of placing judgment.
Integrity, it is my understanding from what I have witnessed throughout
my life and (disappointingly) more recently that a large amount of people need
to look up the meaning of the word to understand it, many act as if they have
never heard/learnt the word at all. If
this is you, do yourself and the rest of the world a favour and buy a
dictionary or look up the meaning of the word ‘integrity’ on google, whichever
is easier for you and then while you are at it take a look at the word
‘dignity’. I might not have much,
achieved much or acquired much in my life, I don’t have a mansion, a Rolls
Royce nor a multi-million dollar company to call my own, but what I DO have is
integrity and dignity.
How do you define yourself?I don't worry
about the things I don't have, or the problems I might still have to face. I think about the goals I have and still will
set for myself and the things I will do to reach them, and then, more
importantly, what I will do once I have achieved them (and believe me I WILL
achieve them). I find it amusing the way
some people don’t even realise what a fool they are making of themselves when they
presume a role and try to enforce their own preconceived reality on someone
else’s life, situation or circumstance.
My mom taught me that if you don’t have
anything good to say then don’t say anything at all, she also taught me to
remain silent in a situation concerning something I know nothing of, thereby
combatting looking ignorant and foolish.
Unfortunately though it seems as if a few never got the same message,
speaking out of turn about things they know absolutely nothing about (in many
cases due to their own lack of taking responsibility for their own
situations/life) resulting if looking like an absolute uneducated, morally
challenged and undignified fool. However, she also taught me to take
responsibility for my own action and to stand up for myself. There are only two
ways to handle a difficult situation: 1) The fool’s way of pointing fingers,
passing judgment, threats of violence and slander or 2) The wise way of acting
in maturity and maintaining a high level of integrity whilst keeping your
dignity intact and addressing the problem in a calm and rational manner. Each option producing very different results
which could either intensify the problem or create a solution. Now, try
answering the question:How do you define yourself?
Don’t miss next week’s column for part 2
of ‘Don’t hesitate – Fumigate!’
Glitter greetings (and all things shiny)
Bohemian B
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