Socially acceptable
Truth.
Something we all want, something we all strive for and often something
we all hide from, maybe not all truth but very often our own truth. We hide behind the mask of fitting in
socially, fitting in to a set standard expected of us, standards which are normally
set by others who are nowhere near succeeding at setting standards of their own.
This Bohemian B has often been referred to as a mess and all too often I
hid behind the silliness I can easily summon
up out of hurt, disappointment or offensive emotions to ‘laugh it off’, yet (without displaying the
emotion, still feel the stab of Pain which accompanies the hurt, disappointment
and even offence). Until one day,
probably from sheer exhaustion of trying to keep up the facade of ‘fitting in’,
I decided to embrace the ‘mess’ that I am and to forget social acceptance
choosing to rather live my truth, right
out in the open, no more hiding my ‘me-ness’ or apologizing for my ‘ much-ness’. What did I have to lose anyway– the good ‘ol
opinion of others? Others, who don’t seem to know how to ‘do’
life either quite frankly, I choose to live life with a dash of spice and only
because this is my own personal flavour,.
But along with living my
truth comes the merciless task of making
( sometimes) life changing decisions, which have had and occasionally still
have the tendency to leave a bitter sweet taste in my mouth, dancing along my
taste-buds. New lessons are learnt
almost daily and new discoveries made along the way, all about my-self, is
intoxicatingly exhilarating and horrendously scary all at once. As fascinatingly scary as this new journey
is, it is all part of the growing process and the ominous and not so easy
exercise of self embracing and honest and real truth of you and as you start to
unfold in this process so you start living, not just existing.
Self acceptance, self truth, self
love......all vital criteria in self discovery, after all you are not a
reflection of people who can’t love, accept or even tolerate you, you must be a
reflection of your own truth radiating self
assurance to everyone around you. As so you (slowly at first maybe) start to realize your worth and proceed to remove yourself from situations that do not
serve you nor add value to your life.
Shakespeare said, “To thine self be true”. Often we think that we need to persevere and
remain in a certain place as not to be named ‘quitter’. Believing that 1) we are no better than what
we are receiving or 2) have a superior ego believing that our pure presence
will turn things around in our own favour and sometimes this could be your very
truth, however, not to your own detriment.
I realized that staying in an unsavoury situation or with someone even
who doesn't appreciate you isn't loyalty, but rather stupidity. No, this is not an act of selfish defiance,
but rather an act of bravery and self empowerment. Reclaiming
your own ‘you-ness’ is not a selfish act but rather heroic. Be the hero of your own life story. We all know the basic principle of accepting
others for whom (or even what, in some cases are!) that we should adhere to,
yet the same does not apply to ourselves, mmmm ....maybe we should actually
start practicing what we preach? I know
that I am not beautiful like you, I am beautiful like me. I cannot be you, nor do I want to, as I’m
(only now really) starting to enjoy being me. A good example would be that personally
I like affection, but I have found that nowadays most people don’t like holding
hands in public, especially if you don’t know them...... yes I know that was a
lame joke, but I happen to think its hilarious considering the fact that that I
have an active imagination, a cheeky and often mischievous side and think in
pictures. You may not share the same
sentiment and that’s alright, because if I have to be completely honest , for
the first time in my life, I really don’t mind what you think, I am not here to
win a popularity contest, well not with you anyway but certainly with myself
and yes, I win. I may not be many things
and am certainly not everyone’s ‘cup-of-tea’, I fall. I rise. I make (many)
mistakes. I LIVE, not merely exist. I’ve
been hurt, but I’m alive. I’m
human. I’m not perfect, but I am
thankful.
Embracing your messy ‘you-ness’ and
living your truth may not win you any popularity contests or ambassador awards,
but it is indeed liberating to realize the freedom to be, unashamedly you.
So go on then, embrace the glorious mess that you are and proudly be
you, the real you. Live your own truth
and be personally acceptable opposed to being moulded into a clone by society
to carry the mundane label, ‘socially acceptable’.
Glitter greetings (and all things shiny)
Bohemian B
No comments:
Post a Comment